Cymbalta withdrawal is a bitch. Bitch Kitty is a bitch.

Cymbalta withdrawal gives me brain zaps, which are like blackouts with extra dizziness and lip tingles and confusion and disorientation but no actual blacking out. Bitch Kitty gives me the come-pet-my-soft-warm-exposed-tummy fakeout, which is like a real come-pet-my-soft-warm-exposed-tummy invitation but with growling and hissing and swatting and running away as fast as her waddly soft warm tummy will allow but with no actual soft warm tummy petting.

 
Cymbalta withdrawal brain zaps hit me then fade away then hit me then fade away until I'm exhausted. Bitch Kitty swats at me then runs away then swats at me then runs away until I'm tired of her bullshit.

 
Cymbalta withdrawal brain zaps will eventually go away and I will dance on their grave. Bitch Kitty will eventually go away and I'll actually kinda miss her.

Another crash

I was supposed to leave this morning for my annual summer vacation to visit friends in D.C. and stay at their best-porch-on-the-planet beach house in Rehoboth, DE, but I had to cancel a few weeks ago due to work issues. A lot of cool things have popped up on my calendar here in Cedar Rapids this weekend though, so I'm more or less OK with missing my trip.

But I still missed work this morning thanks to a rough descent into a bipolar depressive episode that started last night. I talk a lot about being bipolar on here, and every time I think I should stop someone messages me out of the blue to thank me for being so open and honest about it. Enough people have confided in me the stories of their struggles with mental illness that I sometimes worry I won't remember everyone in my mental checklist of kindred, struggling spirits. I've developed close, supportive friendships with a lot of these people though, and our check-ins and conversations and even drives across town just to give hugs are so dear and so valuable to me that I'll probably never stop talking about my own struggles.

So here's this morning's report: I woke up at 6:00 in a motivational black hole with a fiery headache and enough disorientation that I knew enough to skip the gym—which is huge because some days working out is the only thing that keeps me human—and to let my boss know that I'd come in after lunch, if at all today. Then I went back to the kind of non-sleep that feels like you're staying awake getting more and more exhausted compounded by the stress of feeling worried about getting more and more exhausted. But when I woke up around 11:00 my head was clear enough that I could look at the episode objectively and summon the coping and pushing-through skills I've learned over the last decade and I showered and ate and made it to work, where I've been surprisingly productive ... albeit profoundly exhausted.

So to all the people I know who are dealing with mental illness and to all the people I don't know who are dealing with mental illness and to all the rest of you curious enough about my struggles today to have read this far: You will fight this battle all your life. You will get meds that don't work, you will get meds that actually make things worse and you will find meds that you'll notice start to make improvements ... though you'll spend ages waiting cynically for them to fail you. In the mean time, learn what helps you stabilize yourself and what helps you push your way out of the wet wool blankets and the rolling fogs that trap you. As soon as I felt coherent this morning, I texted one friend who right now is in a bottomless depressive episode so we could both not feel alone in our struggles and I texted another friend who as far as I know is not having an episode just so I'd know that someone who deeply understands what I'm going through is at the very least thinking about me. And then I picked out a shirt that says carpe diem on it and I know that it's totally goofy bordering on stupid, but if I'm wearing a shirt that means something to me on a certain day or in a certain situation, I feel compelled to go out in the world and show it to everybody.

And after what my head put me through this morning, I need everyone to know—no, I need to SHOW everyone—that I'm seizing the hell out of the rest of my today.

Why is the waiting-room music at my psychiatrist’s office playing “Send in the Clowns”?

Addy Noma isn't just a mediocre drag name

FUN FACT: Bipolar disorder often comes as a set with a small benign pituitary tumor called an adenoma. And I've been lucky enough over all these years to have collected the whole set. My little adenoma—which would be a great title for a song by Poison—hasn't shown any significant growth in four years, so it's not causing much concern. But we still monitor it with an MRI every other year. And every other year happens in half an hour. Having an MRI on your brain is like being stuffed in a too-small casket that screams at you—like a song by Poison—for 45 minutes. Plus you can't obsessively play on Facebook while you're in your tiny, screamy casket. So it basically totally sucks. But at least it triggers any latent claustrophobia you may have hiding in you, so it totally gives you something to occupy your otherwise unproductive time. So there's that.

This is just a bucket of melty cheese encased in pointless single quotes ...

but I cannot overstate its inherent truth; I wouldn't be here today if it weren't for my family and friends. If you are a part of a mentally ill person's support team—even for a moment—you are a saint. And on behalf of everyone who ever needed a reminder to take his meds or a voice of reason before taking a wrong turn or just a random hug in person or via text, I thank you.

When you’re a total stupid dumbass

who absent-mindedly takes your Saturday PM meds when you wake up at 5:00 on a Monday and then a few hours later you take your Monday AM meds and quickly send yourself spiraling into a painful, disorienting, blinding, terrifying—but ultimately non-threatening—double-dose overdose situation last week so your mom devises a brilliant MomGyver fail-safe using nothing but rubber bands and a butter knife to save you from your stupid self in the future.

Also: While most of these pills are supplements to enhance the efficacy of my psych meds, the collective volume of psychotropic and supplemental pills has finally reached a critical mass that obligates me to take them in two shifts instead of in my usual badass single-fistful gulp.

The horrors of Depakote

Facebook is reminding me that seven years ago today was my first attempt at functioning in public (specifically at work) on the hardcore anticonvulsant Depakote:

Depakote either works wonders for you or it destroys you, and I was DEFINITELY on its no-fly list. The pharmacist who filled my first prescription actually pulled me into a consultation room, warned me about the horrible, terrifying things I might experience, and literally held onto my hand as she talked to me. I'll never forget the look in her eyes that was a mix of both kindness and visible concern.

[Don't get me started on the hack Chicago psychiatrist who'd prescribed it without saying any of this to me and who obviously made zero attempt to set up a line of communication should I have problems in my first terrifying, confusing days and weeks.]

Once I got home that night, I took my first dose with much trepidation, went to bed on the guestroom bed my parents slept in on their visits so I could maybe feel somehow close to them if I needed to ... and right on schedule I was immediately flooded with such graphic nightmares of being hunted and murdered over and over that they're seared in my brain and I can still replay them in my head with absolute clarity.

That was a Friday night, and all weekend I'd hallucinate intruders in black hiding in my apartment and wake up screaming when I tried to sleep. But psych drugs can have side effects like these as you ramp up, and I was at least self-aware enough to know (or be pretty sure I knew) that the hallucinations weren't real and the nightmares would eventually go away.

Which they never did. I was taking Depakote with the more established anticonvulsant Lamictal (which I'd been on for years) and at least one other drug (but probably two or three) that I can't remember, and in the weeks that followed it seemed to be the tipping point from barely managing my bipolar swings to living in terrifying hallucinations and falling into daylong blackouts where I'd come to riding the Red Line north to parts of Chicago I'd never been to or sitting on a bench in the Lincoln Park Zoo without my coat or my phone.

I seem to recall that seven years ago today I was able to hold myself together at work, but I do know that the abovementioned blackouts caused me to start missing entire days of work. I can't remember how long I gave Depakote to finally level out in my head and maybe start working, but I do remember it never did. And my hack psychiatrist eventually had me quit it cold-turkey as he threw some other random drug at me. And I was too meek and confused and overcome with self-doubt to challenge him on any of it.

And it was all awful. Just ... awful.

But it DID give me an opportunity to make a big-gay-musical pun (that wasn't half bad, imho) about it on Facebook seven years ago today. So there's that.

And it took another four years before I found my magic psych cocktail that's kept me stable and functioning and able to laugh at everything I went through. Especially that awesome big-gay-musical pun.

And if you're struggling through your own parade of trial-and-error psych meds (hopefully not with that hack psychiatrist at the helm), try to be be patient and diligent and even optimistic about your adventures. I made it. There's every chance you will too.

Not to make things alarmingly about me

but I accidentally took my meds twice this morning like a forgetful idiot and now I'm dizzy and unable to walk and really sensitive to light and barely able to see and slightly nauseated and talking a bit randomly so this post is taking forever to write.

My neurologist took forever to get back to us, but he said just to sleep it off—which is hard to do because I have to wedge my arms under my sides to hold myself in place because I have a weird sensation that I’m going to roll off the couch where I’m spending the day near my doting parents. 

If you’re on either of these meds, never take 600mg of Lamotrigine and/or 1,200mg of Gabapentin (we’re not sure which is/are making me fall into this bizarre hole). 

That’s enough typing.

Giving cigarettes the Axe

My seizure medication (Lamictal, which is being slowly titrated up from 400mg/day to an eventual 800mg/day) hasn’t killed my cigarette-smoke hallucinations, so I’ve resorted to attempting to mask the imaginary stink with one of these plug-in room-smell thingies (in the default—but debatable—Fresh Linen scent):

And even though it’s on the lowest setting and hidden halfway behind a huge piece of furniture, it makes my entire Basement Bachelor BunkerTM smell like a middle-school boys’ locker room the day after a massive sale on Axe Body Spray.

It does mask the cigarette-smoke hallucinations—which get especially strong (or at least acutely noticeable) as I work at my desk—but it’s giving me a low-grade headache.

Even worse, it’s giving me flashbacks to my boyish middle-school waistline, first fuzz of pubescent armpit hair and store-brand parachute pants. Can I borrow some hair mousse?

MRI/OLFACTORY HALLUCINATIONS UPDATE:

My MRI showed no evidence of seizures, but my cigarette-smoke hallucinations are so pervasive and choking that my neurologist had the levels of Lamotrigine—an anti-seizure medication I'm already on to control my bipolar disorder—tested, and since the numbers were so low he wants me to quadruple my dosage.

Quadruple. In one fell swoop. Which is crazy. And since I'm crazy, I KNOW crazy.

So I have a call in to my psychiatrist to get a second opinion. Because it took a decade to test and titrate the med cocktail I'm currently on that finally makes me (relatively—the jury is still out) functional. And I'd rather choke on imaginary cigarette smoke the rest of my life than spend another day in a psych ward with a roommate whose first words to me are that he just got out of prison. Because I've already crossed THAT off my bucket list.

BUTT UPDATE:
The super-handsome leather-clad supposed-to-be-for-a-dining-room chair I use for my work-at-home desk has started leaving crippling pain in my butt and tailbone—please keep your vulgar comments to yourselves—so I ordered an ergonomically designed butt pad to hopefully let me stand up after every hour of writing without shouting epithets at the no-butt-pain gods.

The pad I bought is literally called Everlasting Comfort(R)—which, I'm sorry, should have been snatched up by the funeral industry decades ago, so way to drop the ball, casket-makers—and it's velvety soft and everlasting-comforty cushy and it has a cavernous space for my poor beleaguered tailbone to hang in peace. I can't say the same for the little hill it expects me to rest my boys on, but if I can walk like a bipedal hominid after spending a day writing about pajamas and kitten hats, the boys and I will learn to adjust.

This is my first day riding the Everlasting Comfort Train, and I've been ergonomic-butting and tailbone-hanging and boys-resting on it for six hours of work now. So far it doesn't feel like anything's changed, but that could just be because my existing profound butt pain hasn't cleared itself up yet. So—like Nevada—the boys and I are still tallying votes and we'll announce the results sometime before the peaceful transfer of power.

Some people get MBAs. Or MSWs. Or Mrs.'s.

I just got an MRI. And I have the MRI hair to prove it.

My choking-cigarette-smoke olfactory hallucinations are now in their sixth straight sold-out week, so my neurologist ordered an MRI to see if I might be experiencing seizures. And since I was a bit overdue for my every-other-year MRI to monitor a benign adenoma tumor on my pituitary, my GP ordered one for that as well.

For those of you keeping score at home, that's two MRIs for the price of one Richter-scale bedhead.

And hoo-boy has the MRI spa experience improved in the last two years. Instead of being immobilized in a claustrophobic head cage and jammed full-body into the super-duper-claustrophobic MRI oven that clanks and screams at you like you're about to be devoured by robot ghosts, this time I was given noise-almost-canceling headphones with my choice of music (they cruelly didn't have a Broadway option, which is just rude) under my claustrophobic head cage and I was rolled into the oven only to my shoulders, which allowed a welcome sense of light and air circulation.

Side note: The top of the oven hole that I was rolled into was made of pale plastic molded with two ridged arcs that curved in from the sides and swooped down to meet in the middle and disappear at the bottom. And when you stare at them for over an hour as terrifying robot ghosts clank and scream in your ears, they start to look like ... well ... um ... a hoo-hoo. And once you see an abstract hoo-hoo arcing gracefully mere inches from your face, you totally can't UNsee it. So it's fair to say that I've had more than my fair share of molded abstract hoo-hoo for the day. Or the week. Or the decade.

When the guy who locked me in the claustrophobic head cage and rolled me into the MRI clanking-and-screaming-robot-ghost oven told me that Broadway wasn't an option for my musical distractions, I—in a pique of fluster—blurted out the obvious second choice for a Broadway lover: '70s rock. I have NO idea why I said that, other than the fact that I like The Eagles and "Little Willy" (the SONG, ya perverts), but the genre's stentorian guitar shredding and growled, node-guaranteeing singing ended up making an arguably better robot-ghost-clanking-and-screaming cover-up than "She Used to be Mine" or "Finishing the Hat."

Side note: When you're immobilized in a cage with a molded abstract hoo-hoo glaring in your face and an endless parade of '70s rock anthems you've never heard before blaring in your ears, you have to think of SOMETHING to pass the time. So you inevitably find yourself listening intently and trying to catalog the form and structure of each song.

Cliff's Notes: The '70s were clearly a period of unbridled musical creativity and innovation, because not a single song is written in AABA form. Not even "Old Time Rock and Roll," despite its UNAMBIGUOUSLY STATED allegiance to the AABA Golden Age. Thanks for nothing, Bob Deceiveger.

Medical-stuff conclusion: There is a measurably common—though not necessarily causal—relationship between mental illness and pituitary tumors. Which is one reason we monitor my adenoma every two years with an MRI to see if it's growing or in any way changing. There is also an objectively cruel relationship between my bipolar-meds-induced tardive dyskenesia—a permanent neurological disorder that causes LOTS of involuntary muscle movement—and my regular MRIs that require me to LIE THE FUCK STILL FOR OVER AN HOUR and hold all that twitching in. It's exhausting, which is why I always take a PTO day to recover when I have an MRI.

And to tame my damn bedhead.

Phantosmia isn't just the name of a potential Drag Race contestant

It's also the clinical term for olfactory hallucinations. And I've been choking in a cloud of hallucinatory cigarette smoke for almost a month now.

It gets so bad that I swear it's coating my throat and I almost start to gag. It feels so pervasive that I swear it's soaking deep into my skin like I've just emerged from spending the night in a smoky bar. (Remember when people used to smoke in bars? Remember when they suddenly couldn't anymore and bars slowly became more and more breathable as the stink dissipated and you didn't have to give yourself Silkwood showers every time you got home?)

And it's so everywhere that I've incorporated easily accessible cans of room spray almost permanently into our home décor. Which barely masks the odor, but it at least helps a little.

It may or may not be a side effect of my bipolar meds. It may or may not be a symptom of my bipolar disorder itself. It doesn't appear on any list of side effects I've seen for covid. And it may just be a stand-alone add-on to the pile of weird things about me.

And it doesn't at all appear to be concerning to my doctors, who have repeatedly shrugged it off.

Weirdly, while my mood stabilizers have left me EXTREMELY chill about covid, politics, the derecho and the state of the world in general, this inescapable cloud of cigarette smoke is really beating me down emotionally. I barely leave the house if I don't absolutely have to.

But I've read that people's phantosmia can manifest itself in clouds of feces, decaying meat and sour body odor. So choking on cigarette smoke 24/7 feels in comparison like I won the lottery.

I had these hallucinations for a month back in March and April and they eventually went away. So I'm counting on that happening again. In the mean time, if you're ever near me I'm going to look at you like you're a big stupid insane liar if you say you can't smell all the thick cigarette smoke around us that's so real it's making me gag.

Also: Don't smoke in real life. It's gross. And bad for you. Listen to your Uncle Jake on this.

So I've started writing this mental-health blog ...

Actually, so far I've just been retrofitting it with posts I've made on Facebook and my older blog over the last decade. And there are hundreds more posts buried away in my social-media attics and basements that I want to find and repost here to create a more robust picture of my personal experiences with and observations about bipolar depression.

Unless I have a massive episode or interesting experience to write about, I'll probably focus my efforts here on digging up and reposting older posts, essays, reviews and ruminations for a while. So if you decide to come back, poke around in the labels and archives scrolling down the column to your right to find new old stuff to read.

Getting this blog up and running and filled with (hopefully) meaningful mental-health content is very much a work in progress, and I hope every time you return you find something helpful or interesting or occasionally entertaining.

And I also hope you share the URL far and wide. We bipolar depressives need our validation. And I have dreams of getting a book deal. And eventually a sitcom and a line of action figures. So copy and paste this with wild abandon:

TMIpolar.blogspot.com

Stay healthy and be well!

The tenacity and the fortitude

Sometimes being bipolar means waking up with your head covered in a gray wool blanket in the middle of a hot drenching rain and the weight of it is practically crippling but you know you're not depressed and you know you're not confused and you know you can breathe and you know you're invested in fighting your way out so you treat every blink and every word and every thought as fuel that sparks the next blink and the next word and the next thought and even though you're foggy and slow and maybe even late you're MOVING and no matter how long it takes and how hard you have to work just to achieve your minimum for now you know that it's just for now and you'll sooner than later find your way out of that hot wet scratchy gray wool blanket and you'll know from hard-fought experience that you may not have the power to make the rain go away but you have the tenacity and the fortitude to outlast it and find your clarity and focus again in the warm, restorative sunlight it was trying to hide from you and even though you're never entirely sure you know exactly what that unclouded sunlight feels like you'll always get close enough to know what you're fighting for and how to be stronger and smarter and even more certain of your indestructibility the next time.

Of Two Minds

I stumbled on this documentary about bipolar disorder last night on Amazon Prime, and it is so well done that I didn't even pick up my phone as I watched it. Which says A LOT.

The film follows the lives of four people living with bipolar disorder for over a year and veers off once in a while to profile a handful of others, which I think leaves viewers with a robust understanding of the commonalities bipolar people all deal with but really underscores the fact that no two people's experiences are the same. Some people (like me) have hallucinations, some cut themselves, some find manic episodes to be thrilling, some (like me) find them scary and exhausting, some experience functional depression, some (like me) fall into depression so deep that it's past the point of functioning and therefore safely past the point of being capable of self-harm, some attempt and eventually succeed at suicide, some hate taking meds and even refuse to fill their prescriptions, and some (like me) can never forget how awful it is to be off our meds and therefore take them religiously.

The people profiled are straight, gay and bisexual. Some are religious and some are atheists. Some have money and some are struggling so much that they can't afford their meds and rent and seriously consider leaving the United States for a country that can offer them healthcare. They live in cities all over North America. The documentary really does a deep dive into the environments and experiences that shape the way people manage their mental health—though my only criticism is that there are only three people of color, all of whom are just one-off side interviews, which I think really misses an opportunity to paint a more robust picture of experiences and contexts and cultures and personal decisions.

It's edited deftly to be thorough and intimately informational but not overwhelming. I was left feeling emotionally connected to everyone—to the point that I rooted for all of them but ended up angry at one person and genuinely disliking another.

If you or someone you love is living (or struggling) with bipolar disorder, I highly recommend watching this. It's quite beautiful.

Reason #7,963 that it sucks to have no power in prolonged high heat and humidity:

• Your meds, vitamins and supplements get sticky and melty and refuse to come out of your pill box

Rolling blackouts

I had a rapid succession of near-blackout episodes yesterday—which are a super-fun side effect of my bipolar med cocktail—in a friend’s yard, and she had to social-distance nurse me back to some semblance of mental presence and then drive me home. I usually have 4-5 greyout episodes a week, and I know how to manage them and get on with my day. But yesterday the Mother Ship came by to zap me into foggy, flashing-lights-in-my-eyes submission.

I’m 95% human again this morning, but you can tell I’m still not 100% present on the planet because of my super-fabulous alien hair.

We love anyway

Next to Normal—a searing, brilliant, Pulitzer-winning rock opera examining the lives of a family whose mother is profoundly struggling with bipolar depression—opened on Broadway 11 years ago today. The show beautifully captures the swings between the ridiculous highs and the soul-crushing lows the disease brings to those of us living in its fogs and terrors ... and to the selfless teams of people who care for us.

I’m fortunate enough to have seen the original production, very soon after I’d been diagnosed as bipolar and had found myself caught in a rather terrifying struggle to wrap my confused, exhausted brain around the fact that mental illness was no longer a mysterious entity in other people’s lives; it was MY life, and I had no idea how to manage it or what potential and very real horrors to expect from it.

The musical is rough to experience from any perspective, but seeing it for the first time tore me apart ... and then put me back together with its closing anthem, “Light,” which features an almost casually placed lyric that is at once devastating and hopeful and never fails to sneak up on me and emotionally gut me even though I know it’s coming: “The price of love is loss / but still we pay / we love anyway.”

Back when I saw the show on Broadway, selfies were new and weird and shameful—and for you young folks, it was the Middle Ages when our smartphones had cameras that faced only one way and didn’t let us see on our screens what our selfies would look like so we just had to hold our phones in the air and hope for the best—so I took this one-try selfie as quickly and discreetly as I could to ensure an entire city of complete strangers wouldn’t judge me. It turned out rather well, although I cut off the last letter of the sign. Which means as far as any of you know, I actually just saw a knockoff production called Next to Norma.

I've been invited to be the Bipolar in Residence and talk to the casts of Next to Normal productions at a number of local theaters over the last few years. And while I hope it was helpful for the actors as they rehearsed and found their characters' realities, it was extremely helpful for me to have an opportunity to articulate the swings and uncertainties and terrors of living with a mental illness—both so I could explain any weirdness I've personally exhibited and to help the actors help their audiences better understand these realities.

While every bipolar mind is different and therefore every moment of Next to Normal doesn't exactly mirror my experiences, every note and every word of the show is brilliant. And that closing anthem—sung by the characters not to each other but to the audience and to the present and to the future—encapsulates the struggles and hopes I live with every day in astute prose and powerful, emotional, wall-of-sound vocals:

Day after day,
We'll find the will to find our way.
Knowing that the darkest skies
Will someday see the sun.
When our long night is done,
There will be light.

I hope this is more indicative of me being crazy than me being infected with a high-profile pathogen

but I'm smelling cigarette smoke EVERYWHERE in the house.

Nobody else smells it. Nobody here smokes. We can't even light candles in the house because of Dad's oxygen machine.

And I don't like it. It's almost making me gag.

Pete Buttigieg had another town-hall rally in Cedar Rapids tonight ...

where he continued to inspire and enthrall and impress the hell out of a packed room of supporters and still-undecided caucusers.

His messages of big-tent inclusivity and his standards of decency and his unfailingly measured and principled and educated policy proposals shaped more than his well-rehearsed stump speech; they drove thoughtful, meaningful answers to audience questions drawn randomly from a literal fishbowl in front of everyone. Pete doesn’t just talk for the sake of talking—he has things to say that he’s clearly thought about and taken the time to research and understand and make informed opinions about.

Issues related to mental illness—and caring for people with mental illnesses—came up more than once over the course of the evening, and amid discussions of stigma and a lack of available care and his loan-forgiveness proposals to draw more people into the field, he specifically mentioned bipolar disorder. I was sitting with my dad in the ADA section, wedged between him with his cane and a stranger with hers. My tardive dyskinesia—a permanent tremor disorder brought on by my bipolar meds—happened to be firing on all cylinders tonight, and as I was struggling mightily to sit still and not bounce like an earthquake and jostle everyone wedged around me, my chosen candidate—the measured, educated, thoughtful, egalitarian, inspiring, openly gay, perpetual adult in the room—specifically mentioned ME and my struggles and my family’s struggles ... and he had solid, workable ideas for addressing them for everyone living with our struggles.

And though my meds have also pretty much neutered my emotions and left me virtually unable to cry, I found myself repeatedly choking back tears.

If you’re undecided or overwhelmed or even underwhelmed by the field of Democratic candidates, reach out to me. I’m more than happy to share with you why I find Pete Buttigieg so inspiring and important and eminently capable of leading us all as a citizenry and as a country.

BOOT EDGE EDGE!

Pete Buttigieg had another town-hall rally in Cedar Rapids tonight, where he continued to inspire and enthrall and impress the hell out of a packed room of supporters and still-undecided caucusers. His messages of big-tent inclusivity and his standards of decency and his unfailingly measured and principled and educated policy proposals shaped more than his well-rehearsed stump speech; they drove thoughtful, meaningful answers to audience questions drawn randomly from a literal fishbowl in front of everyone. Pete doesn’t just talk for the sake of talking—he has things to say that he’s clearly thought about and taken the time to research and understand and make informed opinions about.

Issues related to mental illness—and caring for people with mental illnesses—came up more than once over the course of the evening, and amid discussions of stigma and a lack of available care and his loan-forgiveness proposals to draw more people into the field, he specifically mentioned bipolar disorder. I was sitting with my dad in the ADA section, wedged between him with his cane and a stranger with hers. My tardive dyskinesia—a permanent tremor disorder brought on by my bipolar meds—happened to be firing on all cylinders tonight, and as I was struggling mightily to sit still and not bounce like an earthquake and jostle everyone wedged around me, my chosen candidate—the measured, educated, thoughtful, egalitarian, inspiring, openly gay, perpetual adult in the room—specifically mentioned ME and my struggles and my family’s struggles ... and he had solid, workable ideas for addressing them for everyone living with our struggles.

And though my meds have also pretty much neutered my emotions and left me virtually unable to cry, I found myself repeatedly choking back tears.

If you’re undecided or overwhelmed or even underwhelmed by the field of Democratic candidates, reach out to me. I’m more than happy to share with you why I find Pete Buttigieg so inspiring and important and eminently capable of leading us all as a citizenry and as a country.

The mind is the first thing to go ...

It’s the second day of the year and I’ve already forgotten to take my morning bipolar meds. THAT’S ONLY A 50% SUCCESS RATE, PEOPLE.

I’ll never be one of the people who decide that they’re all better and stop taking their meds, but I’m proving over and over again that I’m one of the people who are too groggy every morning to remember to take them in the first place. Which is EXACTLY why I have a mother who obsessively double checks for me and I have a three-morning stash of dated backups at my desk.

Onward!

Some dumbass we all know

... has accidentally taken his night psych meds in the morning enough times lately that his mom finally had to make a bunch of big white paste-on labels for his pill containers so he hopefully won’t get so confused again in the future.

Tardive Dyskinesia Citrus Blend Sparkling Water

Whee!

My tardive dyskinesia—the permanent, involuntary-movement-causing neurological side effect of my bipolar meds—is firing on all cylinders tonight. I’m shaking and twitching and lurching like a sloppy drunk swatting mosquitos on a pogo stick during an earthquake right now. But my week’s obligations are over, I’m finally home, and I’m gonna find a quiet room where I can just go and WIGGLE.